What Love Making Means To A Woman

          A sage once said "a woman is the most complex creature on Earth". Certainly, no reasonable man could claim to understand her fully. The more a man knows about what lovemaking means to his woman, the more they can enjoy each other, not
only physically but in every aspect of life.

I read Tim and Beverly LaHaye's The Act of Marriage- The Beauty of Sexual Love some days ago and I really enjoyed reading it. Thought I should share a few things I learned from it on what lovemaking means to a woman. 

1. It fulfills her womanhood : There's a rage today on psychology of self image. Books, news articles, publications all talk about self image. We cannot deny the fact that lasting happiness is impossible till we learn to accept ourselves. If a woman sees herself successful in bed, she will have an easy time accepting her total womanhood. Lemme explain. 
One way to understand the function of a female mind is to contrast it with the male thought system.  Just as a man has the God given mandate to be the provider of the family, the woman's intuitive tendency puts her as a home maker. 
Consequently, a man's mental psyche is so oriented that he gains much of his self image from successful occupational pursuits. So how does this relate to lovemaking fulfilling womanhood? As a homemaker, she's a wife, a mother and a 'sexual partner' to her mate. Luke the male, if she doesn't succeed in the bedroom she fails in other areas. Few men accept bedroom failures without being nasty and insulting. If he doesn't enjoy her lovemaking, he will make his disapproval obvious by blaming her. And everyone knows a woman receives major portions of her self esteem from her mate. 

2. It reassures her of her mate's love: This is one point all psychologists agree on. Every one needs love. But this is more true of women than men.  According to Tim and Beverly LaHaye "women have a huge capacity for love, both giving and receiving" . However most people are unaware of the kinds of love women need. First off, is the Companionship Love. A woman looks upon marriage as perpetual Companionship. If men realize this need in their women, they would spend less time in front of the TV  when they are home and enjoy wifely Companionship. It is often hard for a woman to give physical love to a man who does not return her Companionship love. The second is Compassionate Love. A woman has a natural bedside manner but only few men display that kind of compassion. When a child or husband hurts, who runs to his aid? Men need to understand that a woman's capacity for compassionate love testifies to her need to receive it also. So when she's suffering emotionally or physically, do not hesitate to show compassion. The Golden Rule applies here. Then we have Romantic Love. Women are romantics! We all have thoughts of Prince Charming waking us up with kisses and Roses, date nights, soft lights and music, scented candles and and host of other things. Unfortunately, many men fail to understand that, primarily because his need for romantic love is either non existent or minimal. That's understandable, however an occasional night out, some unexpected gifts, opening of the door and PDA can be very rewarding to women.
Do not let today's 'modern' women's attitude fool you. They may look tough and independent and act as though they do not care about manners and etiquette of men but deep down in a woman's heart, something cries out for romantic love. Lemme give you an example. 
A friend of mine, Jemi was the definition of a Tomboy, she'd wear sneakers, jeans and even sag a bit. She cared little about boys and their advances. She was their 'pal'. One day she met this dude, Misan, and with time they started a relationship. Last month, I was opportuned to visit them and I asked her what made her change... She didn't even wait for the question to end, she went "oh Nazz, he's such a gentleman. He opens the door for me, cooks for me, calls me a lot and he is so thoughtful." So those things you consider as 'unimportant little things' matter a lot to women. 
One type I really want to lay emphasis on is Passionate Love. Impassioned love comes naturally to man because of his stronger sex drive. But that does not mean he cannot be in control of it and make passionate love to his woman. She is not a sex object there for his pleasure only. She needs pleasing herself. So please don't be that 'one minute man' for your woman, take your time while at it. When these love needs have been fulfilled, then fulfillment will give assurance of her man's love. 

3. It satisfies her sex drive: Even though a woman does not possess a sex drive as strong and consistent as a man, she certainly has a sex drive. Also, it is note worthy to state that a woman's sexual pleasure grows through the years. As she learns to be uninhibited in her responses to her mate and increasingly learns to experience orgasms, her appreciation and desire for the experience grows.
Although a woman does not seem so readily tempted to fantasize as does her mate, she does have the capacity to remember romantically those exciting experiences of the past. Each thrilling love making event increases her sex drive in the same way that each frustrating experience stifles it.