Things you're not doing right, Mrs!

                          'Sex is… perfectly natural. It’s something that’s pleasurable. It’s enjoyable and it enhances a relationship. So why don’t we learn as much as we can about it and become comfortable with ourselves as sexual human beings because we are all sexual?'                                                                                           .                                                                         Sue Johanson.


It is quite appalling the rate at which married women ignorantly chase their man out of the house in search of good sex.... 
    Few years back, I heard something strange for the first time. A married lady living with her husband a few blocks from ours came to our compound to talk to some of the neighbours. Im not peoud to say this but I eavesdropped. Women gossip is not something a young girl should miss. Lol.
    According to her, she was tired of being beaten, cheated on and disrespected by her husband. After narrating her ordeal, they sympathized with her and she left. I was missing something, I was sure of it. So I asked one of the younger women(later on) why theydid not advice her to pack up and leave before she gets killed. And what she told me was; "don't mind her. Its all her fault, she doesn't listen". 
    Apparently, this lady who just left was having issues relating to sex. Her husband tried to spice up their sex life by suggesting some new positions and she turned him down flat. That sex is for procreation and it is missionary style only. And she also bluntly refused to give the guy a head. Her reason? Its unholy, unheard of, and unhealthy.... Each time her friends told her to do it, she would say 'God forbid!'
    Finally, the guy got tired of being rejected and got a girl outside going all down and dirty the way he wanted... and the lady started raising hell. End of story, it got to where she turned into a punching bag. I'm not saying this dude is right in hitting the lady... Na! On no account should a man hit a lady. Neither am I saying you should turn into a pornstar.
    But the point here is sex in marriage isn't unholy, it is meant to be enjoyed and it is not for mere procreation. If it is, then the male and female sex organs will not have so many pleasure spots...e.t.c. There are so many women out there with this crazy concept and God knows where they got it from.
   So Women, please please and please, do not just think its all about lying down on your and waiting for him to come. Noooo. Explore! 
Let your imagination run wild. If you're clueless, grab some books, log onto the internet, watch some videos,,,, do things... you know, a Lil tease here, a Lil dirty talk here, a Lil "woman on top", a Lil anything. And learn to ask questions. Find out what your man wants and tell him what you want to. 
   P.S, I'm not saying this is the key to keeping your man O. Cos some men are just out of this world. Its just a push in the right direction. Don't forget, you're married so its not a sin. Cheers!